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When Is A Good Time to Add Sex

When is a good time to add sex to a relationship?

In my personal experience, I would have to say: when you're in a strong commitment such as marriage.

We always share how powerful sex is physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. I am firmly aware of how very powerful it is, especially because my recent relationship didn't go well, even though we added sex when we felt ready, and we felt like we knew the other person intimately. I also gave her something so special, my gift, my virginity, thinking that she was worth it and I would be with her always and forever. But I was lying to myself. Little did I realize that she wasn't as committed as I was. I had to find that out the hard way. Had I known that, I wouldn't have had sex with her. Because now I will have to explain to my future wife that she isn't my first and my best.

There is a strong guilt and hurt, especially knowing all these things, and honestly, it's my personal faith that has helped me the most. I had to be reminded that I am not only forgiven, but what I chose to do is forgotten too. This is helping me to realize that there can be restoration and redemption. Hope has really become a part of my life. I am also learning to truly love. Although I am not with the girl that I gave myself to, I still can say that I love her and I do forgive her. It wasn't easy; it was very difficult.

This is why I believe you should only add sex in the safety and security of marriage: to avoid all the negative emotions that may happen if your relationship doesn't go well. I know that's what I'm going to do in my future, because there is one woman who is unique and special to receive my gift.


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