Before You Decide…
Seven Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
- You are always wrong. Every disagreement ends the same way: you are wrong and your partner is right.
- Fear. You avoid bringing up subjects that are important to you because your partner may get angry.
- Substance abuse, including black-outs. Your partner consumes alcohol or uses recreational drugs often. Your partner cannot remember what he/she has said and done after drinking or using.
- Your partner seeks control over you. Your partner tries to control: your access to money, who you spend time with, where you work (or whether you work at all), what you wear, or how you behave.
- Your partner puts your down. You feel bad about yourself because your partner calls you names, makes fun of you, or thinks you are stupid, ignorant or incompetent.
- Your partner lies to you or cheats on you.
- Un-kept promises. Your partner promises to change but doesn’t.
Someone who truly loves you will respect you, be honest with you and treat you with kindness and patience; they will value your thoughts and feelings, and will not treat you with violence or force sex on you. We encourage you to make an appointment with a counselor at Amnion Pregnancy Center if you would like to discuss your relationship circumstances.
For more on healthy relationships, check out Amnion’s RealEd team on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @RealEd4u. RealEd exists to empower people to think through their own values and morals and make healthy decisions about relationships.
Taken from Before You Decide, a publication of Care Net, 2014.